Hookup & dating

Best hookup sites

The best adult dating and hookup sites, from AdultFriendFinder to swinger and kink communities, with what each costs.

  1. 1

    Best overall: the biggest hookup site, with chat rooms and cams built in.

    ~$40 for 1 month; ~$20/mo yearly

  2. 2

    Best for kink: a huge, free kink community with local events.

  3. 3

    Best for swingers: an established community with real parties and events.

    From about $14/mo; lifetime about $250

  4. 4

    Best for discretion: built for discreet affairs, free for women.

    Credits from ~$49 for 100

  5. 5

    Best free tier: a few messages a day without paying.

  6. 6

    Best simple hookup site: focused on casual encounters, free to browse.

How we picked

Hookup sites differ in who's on them and how you pay. AdultFriendFinder is the general-purpose giant; FetLife and SDC are communities for kink and swinging; Ashley Madison is built around discretion and charges men per conversation.

We ranked them on the size of the community, what you can do for free, and pricing at the time of writing, using our reviews. Most charge men for messaging, so check the free tier before you pay.

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